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East Meets West for Better Sex

Seeking to improve your sex life? Perhaps some methods rooted in ancient philosophies can satisfy.

Many Roads Lead To Rome continued...

If you're interested in learning tantric practices, you have to realize that it's not just about sex. Despite similarities to modern Western sex therapy, tantric sex is ultimately supposed to be a way to spiritual enlightenment, not an end in itself. And in some forms of tantric practice, you can't ignore the spiritual stuff and skip to the how-to.

Taoist sexual yoga, or sexual chi kung (or qigong) is a form of tantra that teaches men to cultivate sexual energy to enhance their sexual prowess, and couples to improve their experience by sharing energy. You cannot be a skeptic and practice this. You have to believe that a mystical life force, called chi, flows through your body, and that it can be manipulated to effects such as multiple orgasms and long sessions of lovemaking.

"I can have sex for an hour, sometimes an hour and a half, and then I want to rest and have some more later -- and this is without having an orgasm," says Eric Yudelove, author of Taoist Yoga and Sexual Energy. "Very often we'll start early and go into the wee hours of the morning. It works very well."

Whipple teaches methods of achieving the same result, but in a different way. Instead of talking about chi and chakras, she teaches Kegel exercises, also called PC muscle exercises. By strengthening the muscles of the pelvic floor, men are better able to control ejaculation, allowing them to have multiple orgasms, and women can do the same.

Maybe this all sounds too heavy for you. It's a lot of work for pleasure. And perhaps neither you nor your lover wants to have sex for hours at a time. "That doesn't mean that quickies are not OK," Stubbs says. "Quickies are great. But if all you eat is fast food, it might give you a heart attack, and not a whole lot of satisfaction."

He stresses that practicing tantra is a way of life, although "it almost sounds like the latest fad," he says. But he doesn't mind that tantra is being assimilated by pop culture, or even if people pursue it like the latest diet or exercise trend. "At least people are starting to explore the possibility," he says.


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