East Meets West for Better Sex
Seeking to improve your sex life? Perhaps some methods rooted in ancient philosophies can satisfy.
Many Roads Lead To Rome continued...
For example, in Stubbs' book, he details techniques of sensual
massage and how to perform a "Secret Garden" ritual with your partner,
which involves a bath, whipped cream, and chilled champagne. In Tantra: The
Art of Conscious Loving, authors Charles and Caroline Muir discuss
techniques of G-spot stimulation, kissing, and oral sex, in addition to ways to
improve communication between partners.
Other sex manuals that aren't specifically tantric also teach
these things. But you will find ideas in books on tantra that are not in
TheJoy of Sex, or Nina Hartley's educational videos.
If you're interested in learning tantric practices, you have to
realize that it's not just about sex. Despite similarities to modern Western
sex therapy, tantric sex is ultimately supposed to be a way to spiritual
enlightenment, not an end in itself. And in some forms of tantric practice, you
can't ignore the spiritual stuff and skip to the how-to.
Taoist sexual yoga, or sexual chi kung (or qigong) is a form of
tantra that teaches men to cultivate sexual energy to enhance their sexual
prowess, and couples to improve their experience by sharing energy. You cannot
be a skeptic and practice this. You have to believe that a mystical life force,
called chi, flows through your body, and that it can be manipulated to effects
such as multiple orgasms and long sessions of lovemaking.
"I can have sex for an hour, sometimes an hour and a half,
and then I want to rest and have some more later -- and this is without having
an orgasm," says Eric Yudelove, author of Taoist Yoga and Sexual
Energy. "Very often we'll start early and go into the wee hours of the
morning. It works very well."
Whipple teaches methods of achieving the same result, but in a
different way. Instead of talking about chi and chakras, she teaches Kegel
exercises, also called PC muscle exercises. By strengthening the muscles of the
pelvic floor, men are better able to control ejaculation, allowing them to have
multiple orgasms, and women can do the same.