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What Does "For Worse" Look Like?

Their love survived... her mental illness continued...

Meanwhile, the Ticases often wondered—aloud, angrily, to each other—if they were the problem. "Maybe our marriage was a mistake," Julio would say, prompting Lauri to counter with, "Well, then why don't you just leave?" Finally, he did. And that scared Lauri. "I'd often fantasized about us separating, but now I realized I didn't want to lose him," she says. Julio was feeling the same way; he returned home later that night to discuss what they could do.

"We banned the word 'divorce' from our vocabulary," Lauri says. "Saying it had become a way to hurt each other." She looked into new treatment options, and a year ago was implanted with a vagus nerve stimulator, a device that helps control her moods. "In the past, small noises like Julio drumming his fingers on a table would send me over the edge," she recalls. "Now, when I hear it, I smile thinking about how much it used to bother me."

Today, it's hard for the couple to imagine there was ever a time when they regretted marrying each other. "If he asked all over again, I'd say yes in a heartbeat," says Lauri. And Julio feels the same. "Our relationship isn't perfect," he says. "But every problem has a solution, and if a couple remains strong, they will find it."

 

    

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