What Does "For Worse" Look Like?
Their love survived... her mental illness continued...
Meanwhile, the Ticases often wondered—aloud, angrily, to each other—if they
were the problem. "Maybe our marriage was a mistake," Julio would say,
prompting Lauri to counter with, "Well, then why don't you just leave?"
Finally, he did. And that scared Lauri. "I'd often fantasized about us
separating, but now I realized I didn't want to lose him," she says. Julio
was feeling the same way; he returned home later that night to discuss what
they could do.
"We banned the word 'divorce' from our vocabulary," Lauri says.
"Saying it had become a way to hurt each other." She looked into new
treatment options, and a year ago was implanted with a vagus nerve stimulator,
a device that helps control her moods. "In the past, small noises like
Julio drumming his fingers on a table would send me over the edge," she
recalls. "Now, when I hear it, I smile thinking about how much it used to
Today, it's hard for the couple to imagine there was ever a time when they
regretted marrying each other. "If he asked all over again, I'd say yes in
a heartbeat," says Lauri. And Julio feels the same. "Our relationship
isn't perfect," he says. "But every problem has a solution, and if a
couple remains strong, they will find it."
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