What You're Really Doing in Bed
You Tell Us.... When are you most likely to be in the mood?
"I'm most likely to be in the mood after having a relaxing time, such as
a night out. I'm also more likely when it's not late at night. I get worried
about not getting enough sleep and don't feel like using that valuable time for
sex!" -- Kim, 32
"When my hubby and I share special time together -- watching a movie,
walking while holding hands, just a complete connection with lots of
affection." -- Janice, 48
"I am a very visual person, so any time I see something that reminds me
of sex -- sometimes it's something as simple as a picture of a good-looking man
-- I'm in the mood right away. There is also certain music that will put me in
the mood quickly." -- Chris, 45
"Any time I see my husband as the individual he is. Sometimes I think we
forget that we are each separate people. When I see him lost in conversation,
entertaining, and just being himself, I want to drag him into the bedroom."
-- Kellie, 34
"Being outside enjoying nature makes me feel especially close to my
husband, and that closeness needs a venue for expression." -- Janie, 49
"I like to have sex after a busy, productive day at work. It's a great
stress releaser and an excellent way to unwind." -- Holly, 44
Something to brag about:
43% of you think your sex life is better than average. Only 17% say it's worse
Men Answer Your Secret Sex Question: Do you care how great the sex is, or
are you just happy you're having sex?
The men we asked were pretty evenly divided on this question -- after all,
quality and quantity both have their benefits. One guy summed it up well:
"When you're married, you already have that strong sexual connection with
someone, so sex is guaranteed to be good. Quantity -- maintaining and keeping
that connection -- becomes more important." -- Todd, 36
You Tell Us.... How has being married affected your sex life?
"Being married is great, but it does set up some bad habits. Sex can
become mechanical. You tend to get too comfortable. The romance sometimes heads
south. My husband tends to focus only on two areas -- Honk! Honk! here and Rub!
Rub! there." -- Michelle, 34
"Marriage has only made my sex life better. I feel so safe and
comfortable with him that it makes it easier for me to experiment and try more
things." -- Kellie, 34
"I have much more sex now than when I was single -- and more orgasms!
Especially since I turned 40, they have gotten so much longer and more
intense." -- Holly, 44
"It takes more work sometimes to keep it hot, but in the end it's worth
it not to have to worry about the who, what, where, when, and why of dating.
And most of all, to know that I'm cherished and that we're in it together for
the long haul." -- Julie, 39