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What You're Really Doing in Bed


"We never have sex in the bedroom. It's always someplace else in the house, in the car, wherever we can." -- Kathy, 42

"Getting the TV out of our bedroom, putting on more mood music, and lots of candles." -- Cabrielle, 36

"We've tried a little light bondage by tying each other up with some ties or using a blindfold. And we used to sneak off and rent a hotel room for a few hours so we could enjoy ourselves in a Jacuzzi without worrying about the kids walking in on us." -- Shannon, 36

Oral Opinions
Here's a question you often ask us: Do other women enjoy performing oral sex? According to our poll, you're pretty evenly divided: 49% think it's a real turn-on; 40% say you do it just for him but don't love it yourself; and 11% really dislike it. On the other hand, most of you appreciate receiving oral: 33% say it's your favorite thing to do in bed; 56% say you enjoy it but enjoy other things just as much; and only 11% say you'd rather skip it. But surprise, surprise: You're more likely to never receive oral (11%) than to never perform it (7%). Hey, that's no fair!

Men Answer Your Secret Sex Question: What makes for great oral sex?

"The key is variation: Mix up the pace, while switching between shallow and deep throat motions." -- Stan, 45

"Be consistent. In the beginning, variety and creativity is great, but once you figure out the right combination, speed, and pressure, stick to one rhythm until the end." -- Philip, 33

"Maintaining eye contact is one of the hottest moves a woman can make during oral sex. It's more intimate and is nonverbal confirmation that she's enjoying it as much as you are." -- Dave, 28

"Attend to the head and the shaft, but don't forget the balls. It's often overlooked, but a very sensitive hot spot." -- John, 30

"The element of surprise. I've been married for 15 years, and oral sex is sometimes the last thing I'm expecting. When she suddenly pushes me down on the bed out of the blue, it's a great rush." -- Brendan, 44

"Being hands-on. For women who don't like giving oral sex, with the right hand motions, you actually don't have to use your mouth that much." -- Todd, 36

How Are Those O's?
Congratulations: 51% of you say that you reach orgasm every time or nearly every time you're with your guy. (Another 31% say you orgasm half to three-quarters of the time.) That doesn't mean orgasm is a sure thing -- when asked how easy it is for you to climax with your guy, on a scale of 1 to 5, 31% of you say it's just a 3, while only 19% say it's a 5. Only 15% say you can always peak from intercourse alone, while 21% say you never can. On the other hand, when asked how easy it is for you to reach orgasm by yourself, almost half of you said 5, or, "It's a sure thing." Yet 22% of you say you never masturbate at all. That's a shame, considering that masturbating is not only fun -- it can actually help your partnered sex life. "Research shows that women who masturbate have better sexual response in all areas: more orgasms, less pain, even more desire," says REDBOOK Love Network expert Laura Berman, Ph.D., author of The Passion Prescription.

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