What You're Really Doing in Bed
"We have tried role-playing and we also talk dirty to each other on the phone during the day." -- Kellie, 34
"We give each other full-body massages with light touches and rubs, barely grazing those intimate spots but not full-on touching them. It is very sensual and relaxing and makes you crave more." -- Jamie, 27
"Just different positions, and of course my husband loves porn -- I don't mind it either. I also have a collection of toys that we use together. He loves to watch me use them." -- Holly, 44
"I bought a red lightbulb for my bedside table lamp for mood lighting. We sometimes use blindfolds -- that can really enhance the experience." -- Chris, 45
"We never have sex in the bedroom. It's always someplace else in the house, in the car, wherever we can." -- Kathy, 42
"Getting the TV out of our bedroom, putting on more mood music, and lots of candles." -- Cabrielle, 36
"We've tried a little light bondage by tying each other up with some ties or using a blindfold. And we used to sneak off and rent a hotel room for a few hours so we could enjoy ourselves in a Jacuzzi without worrying about the kids walking in on us." -- Shannon, 36
Here's a question you often ask us: Do other women enjoy performing oral sex? According to our poll, you're pretty evenly divided: 49% think it's a real turn-on; 40% say you do it just for him but don't love it yourself; and 11% really dislike it. On the other hand, most of you appreciate receiving oral: 33% say it's your favorite thing to do in bed; 56% say you enjoy it but enjoy other things just as much; and only 11% say you'd rather skip it. But surprise, surprise: You're more likely to never receive oral (11%) than to never perform it (7%). Hey, that's no fair!
Men Answer Your Secret Sex Question: What makes for great oral sex?
"The key is variation: Mix up the pace, while switching between shallow and deep throat motions." -- Stan, 45