Marriage Makeover: "2 Jobs, 2 Kids — Where Does Our Marriage Fit In?"
MEGHAN: "I can see the value in having a standing morning meeting
about our relationship. It's totally true that in the morning you feel
refreshed and ready to work things out. We tried to do a Sunday-night meeting,
but we were too anxious for the week ahead, and it didn't stick. But on a
Saturday morning, we'll have the energy to open up about our relationship and
set ourselves up for a great weekend. I liked the five-minute thing, too. It
gives me hope that if we plant this little seed of time together, it will grow
into something bigger between us."
MEGHAN: "I think Dr. Greer’s advice has made us more aware of
things like how we talk to each other, or if we're not paying attention to each
other. I feel like I'm more grateful for all the things Jeremy does since we've
talked to her, and I think it's because I am more conscious of the things he's
doing. I think I'm making more of an effort not to take those things for
granted. We're trying to do the weekly meetings in the morning, but it's been
hard to make it a real habit. We both still think it's a good idea, though. So,
we'll keep trying. I've been trying to ramp it up on the snuggling, too. In
fact, we snuggled through a 2 1/2 hour movie last weekend — not bad, eh?! I've
also started sending him more notes — emails and texts and stuff — just to say
that I love him, I appreciate him, etc. I have no idea if he thinks it's great
or dorky. Probably a little of both!
It does seem like we're both happier in some ways. And, even though the
therapist never once said, 'Well, don't work so much!' I think it has made us
more conscious of how much we do work and the unintended consequence of that
has been that we are getting better at saying, 'That can wait 'til tomorrow' in
favor of hanging out with each other. And we've been trying to go on more
dates, which has been really fun. Going out — even just for dinner and a movie
— and laughing and enjoying each others company reminds me why we are together
in the first place. Which feels really nice."
JEREMY: "I really liked the whole 'five minutes' suggestion and
nobody can argue with that no matter how busy or stressed out they might be.
Heck, you can easily waste five minutes trying to pick out a snack. Five
minutes is pretty easy and doesn't feel like any additional weight of
responsibility. Five minutes really can give a much needed perspective and a
reconnection. And if it turns into a few hours somehow, hey, that's a good