A sex therapist can be a psychiatrist, a marriage and family therapist, a psychologist, or a clinical social worker. We are specially trained in sex therapy methods beyond the minimal amount of training about sexuality that is required for each of those licenses.
There are a few graduate schools in the U.S. that specialize in training for sex therapy. Some people assemble their training by rigorous self-study and by attendance at the major sexological organizations' annual conferences. We have about...
But it's no myth that women often want the same thing out of
relationships as men do; they just go about getting it in different ways and in
different phases of their lives, says Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD. She should
know: as co-founder and clinical director of the Gottman Institute, she focuses
on helping couples build and maintain healthy relationships. "There's kind
of a developmental process to relationships that in some ways parallels that of
the individual, and then calls on different things from partners in
relationships throughout a lifetime," Gottman tells WebMD.
Gottman says that what each woman needs, wants, and expects
from her marriage or intimate relationship may change from one phase of her
life to the next. Yet there are tips that help couples in all phases of life.
So let's start with those:
Make time for conversations where you find out what your partner has
Express fondness, appreciation, and admiration for your partner often.
Acknowledge your partners interests, even in small moments.
Avoid the "Four Horsemen" of Marriage: criticism, contempt,
defensiveness (which follows criticism and contempt), and stonewalling (that
is, when one partner completely shuts down and refuses to respond).
As the song says, "You got to have friends." Research
shows that in the 20s, women and men alike need solid friendships from their
partners, as well as ways to manage conflict when disagreements occur.
And did we mention good sex?
"What colors this period, at least at this time in history,
is that both men and women in their 20s are forming careers or moving forward
into their work paths, and there's a lot of stress in that process,"
Let's imagine Alice A, a 20-something newly married to Bob B
and just setting out on her career. To begin with, unless she or hubby has a
fat trust fund to live off, Alice is probably going to have to embark on her
career straight out of school.
In addition to laying the roots for her professional life, our
heroine has the added the stresses of dividing household labor, coping with
in-laws, paying bills, and, possibly, pregnancy and children.
"Children in infancy in particular can be stressful for new
parents, primarily due to a couple of things," Gottman says. "One, of
course is the physical demands of having a new baby. Another is the changes in
the family system itself." To recap: first comes love, then comes marriage,
then comes Alice with a baby carriage and the costs of day care, a
mortgage, and gasoline for the suburban assault vehicle sitting in the