Sex After Orgasm in Men

Question:

I am a 30-year-old male, very healthy, active, and fit. I've been married for five years and have a very healthy, satisfying sex life. There are times after having intercourse and reaching orgasm that my wife and I would like to have sex again, but it takes 30-40 minutes for me to achieve an erection again, and when I do it is not as firm as I would like it and I'm often unable to achieve orgasm. Is there anything we can do?

Answer:

Your circumstances are very common, statistically speaking. There are exceptions, but that's what they are -- exceptions. I think that spending another 40 minutes caressing, kissing, massaging, nuzzling and the like is a wonderful way to pass the time. If you are trying to have a second round because your partner wants it, keep sex toys in mind. They can offer all sorts of creative and fun options.

Louanne Cole Weston, PhD, is a licensed marriage, family, and child counselor and a board-certified sex therapist in practice since 1983. Her work in the field of human sexuality includes extensive experience as a therapist, educator, and researcher.

Louanne Cole Weston, PhD, is a licensed marriage, family, and child counselor and a board-certified sex therapist in practice since 1983. Her work in the field of human sexuality includes extensive experience as a therapist, educator, and researcher.

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