Love on the Brain
Scientists peeking inside our brains and psyches have more clues than ever about the biology of love -- why we're attracted, why we fall so hard, and what makes us stay.
The Biology of Love: Your Brain in Love
Love involves three basic brain circuits, according to Fisher. There's the
sex drive, which motivates us to seek out partners; romantic love, the
in-the-clouds feeling when you first fall in love; and the attachment phase,
the comfortable-but-fewer-fireworks stage.
"The sex drive is a very simple drive," Fisher says. "It's
simply the craving for sexual gratification, driven largely by testosterone in
both men and women."
The three brain systems, however, don't always come into play in any kind of
order. They can kick in separately of be intertwined. Or they can trigger each
other. For instance: you can have sex with someone but not fall in love, of
course; you can be in love with someone with whom you've never had sex.
"Of these three systems, in many respects I think the most powerful one
is intense romantic love," Fisher says. With Aron and others, Fisher has
used functional magnetic
resonance imaging (fMRIs) to examine the brains of people in love and get
clues about romantic love.
In one study, 17 people who were newly in love and asked to look at a photo
of their beloved showed intense activity in two brain regions associated with
reward and motivation -- called the ventral tegmental area and the right
caudate nucleus. The findings led Fisher's team to suggest that the
crazy-in-love feeling is more a motivation system than an emotion. The report
was published in 2005 in The Journal of Comparative Neurology.
"Both the VTA and the caudate nucleus are part of the brain reward
system," Fisher says. And the VTA, she says, is a "mother lode" for
cells that make dopamine, a brain chemical important for controlling emotional
response and the ability to feel pleasure and pain.
As dopamine levels in the madly-in-love increase, she says, it accounts for
focused attention on the new partner, motivation to get the reward -- and the
In this romantic love phase, Fisher says, lovers are motivated to win each
other over. Obsessive thinking is part and parcel.
"What we are seeing is activation in the same area as when you expect to
receive a large reward," Aron says. It's the same area that "lights
up" in cocaine users, he says, as they anticipate using the
"What we think is what's going on when one falls in love is, one
perceives incredible opportunities for one's life to be enriched," Aron
says. "Perhaps the most important reward for most people is falling in