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By Lindsey Palmer
Can taking a break from making love actually improve your sex life? Sex
therapist and REDBOOK Love Network expert Ian Kerner, Ph.D., proposes just that
in his new book, Sex Detox. Here, Kerner explains how it works:
Using technology in the search for true love is certainly nothing new: In
the 1899 hit song Hello Ma Baby, a young man entreats his lover to
"send me a kiss by wire" and begs, "Oh baby, telephone, and tell me
I'm your own."
In 1965, when computers were still hulking monstrosities programmed by punch
cards, a group of Harvard students, including future Supreme Court nominee
Douglas H. Ginsburg, formed a company called Compatibility Research Inc., which
attempted to apply digital science to the art of love. Match-making sites such
as eHarmony, Match.com, OkCupid, and Casual Kiss are its love children.
But is technology really a boon to romance or a barrier to intimacy?
For the star-crossed lover Abelard who wrote to his unattainable Heloise
nearly a thousand years ago, the agony of waiting for the mail to arrive must
have been keen indeed. For many of today's romantically inclined, however, the
immediacy of electronic love notes helps to keep intense relationships
But for others, technology has its limits and its perils, because it allows
us to reach out to, but not touch someone. Instead, we're substituting
emoticons for emotions and stripping the intimacy of in-person encounters from
the small daily kindnesses of personal relationships.
"I think that word, 'connected' is a misnomer, because we believe we're
connected but in many ways we might be more disconnected from the actual
relationship with a person," says John O'Neill, LCSW, director of
addictions services for the Menninger Clinic in Houston.
A Match Made in (Cyber) Space
Certainly, technology can bring people together. According to eHarmony.com,
every day, 90 of its more than 17 million registered users get married. And
there are as many match sites as there are fish in the sea.