Love in the Time of Caller ID
When we’re always in touch but never in reach, can true love blossom?
A Match Made in (Cyber) Space continued...
There are also hundreds or thousands of smaller sites offering pair-ups by
religious affiliation, gender, age, cultural interests, political convictions
-- whatever floats your boat. There's even one for Klingon and Vulcan
impersonators, called Trek Passions.
Jeanine Persichini of Dallas met her husband, Gary, eight years ago via an
online personals ad.
"I think it [technology] enhances a relationship," Persichini, a
real estate assistant in Dallas, tells WebMD.
"Actually, I think you get to know someone more, because they're not
hiding anything," she says. "You can shoot off a little 'I love you'
text message anytime during the day when you can't interrupt your significant
other at work with a call."
Persichini confesses to having been reluctant at first to reveal just how
she ended up finding true love, but she has come to realize, she says, that the
ends justified the means.
Hold on, I Gotta Answer This
Communications technology now makes it possible to reach someone on a beach
in Costa Rica, the summit of Mount Kilimanjaro, the International Space
Station, and in bed.
Michael Chancellor, MD, director of the Center for Urologic Research
Excellence in Pittsburgh, studies male and female sexual dysfunction and says
he has identified a new disorder afflicting hard-charging corporate types when
they're behind closed doors.
"I was in a meeting with my colleagues once and everybody's BlackBerries
kept going on off, and I thought, 'Blackberries are ubiquitous and they affect
business -- I'll bet they affect sex, too," he tells WebMD.
To test this hypothesis, he and colleagues conducted a small online survey
of Ivy League MBAs and found that four in 10 reported that they stopped having
sex to respond to a message on their BlackBerries or other digital devices, and
45% admitted skipping sex for a business meeting, golf game, or night at the
It gives a whole new meaning to the term coitus interruptus.
To foster healthier relationships, Chancellor proposes that Valentine's Day
also be designated as "Turn Off Your BlackBerry Day".
Second Life, Second Wife
Technology can also make strangers bedfellows. According to Mother
Jones magazine, about one-third of women who play the multiplayer online
role-playing game Second Life marry off their avatars, as do about 10%
of men who play. The virtual marriages usually last only a few weeks,