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Lower Expectations Key to Marital Bliss?

Expecting Blips of Difficulty May Better Result in Long-Lasting Bliss

Skills and Expectations Should Match continued...

The newlyweds also completed questionnaires that examined their levels of satisfaction in their marriage, their expectations for future satisfaction, and expectations for the way their partners would behave. They also answered questions to assess whether they were more likely to blame their spouses -- and not themselves -- for problems that could arise. Each spouse was then retested every six months.

The bottom line: Spouses who had higher expectations at the beginning of their marriage -- but poor skills to achieve those expectations -- showed steep declines in marital satisfaction over time. Less positive expectations however -- despite poor skills -- predicted a more stable satisfaction with the marriage over time. But that's not to say that all couples need to lower their expectations in order to reach the heights of marital satisfaction.

"It's not about settling for less; it's realizing that sometimes, 'less' occurs and your expectations should reflect how to deal with it accordingly," McNulty tells WebMD. "But unrealistic expectations can go both ways. People can be unrealistically negative, as well. If they expect things to be bad, when they are actually good, they don't take advantage of that. So lowering expectations is not good for everyone."

How Do You Argue?

So how can you determine what you should accurately expect from your mate?

"When you put your partner on a pedestal and think he or she is perfect, that's fine if your partner can accomplish that. But most can't, so there's disappointment. It really comes down to trying to notice the impact that external things have on your spouse's behavior, understanding the ups and downs of life -- and to some extent, being able to predict them."

There's another good reason to polish your crystal ball.

Just three months ago, another finding indicated future divorce rates could be predicted -- with 94% accuracy -- with a mathematical formula based on giving positive or negative numerical scores for actions and expressions displayed while couples argued. When the math was done, researchers found the key to a successful marriage wasn't how often they argue, but how they did it.

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