What Does It Take to Lift Your Sex Life to the Next Level?
A CALENDAR continued...
We consulted our couples counselor, and she suggested we use a calendar to
plan specific times for sex. We’ve always been open to anything that might make
our relationship stronger, so we started having meetings where we penciled in
appointments — usually twice per week — then committed to sticking to that
schedule. Even if we’re tired or not in the mood, we’ve found that if we just
go through the motions, we usually get into it. Sometimes we designate “my
night” or “his night” when the “guest of honor” just relaxes while the other
partner does all the work. The calendar makes me closer to Scott, and we feel
like more of a team because we’re working together to stay sexually connected —
neither of us is solely responsible for making sex happen. The more we plan on
sex, the more we do it — and the more we want to do it!
Originally published on: April 16, 1998
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