What Does It Take to Lift Your Sex Life to the Next Level?
When it comes to giving your sex life a boost, your first instinct might be to turn to the usual suspects: lacy lingerie, scented oils, maybe a naughty toy or two. But who knew that getting a new dishwasher, practicing Pilates, or having a baby — yes, really! — could improve your bedroom connection? Read on to find out what worked for these real couples.
HAVING A BABY
Trina Tschappat, 28, stay-at-home mom and part-time UPS worker
Troy Tschappat, 30, electrician
TRINA: When Troy and I first got married, I thought we should be having sex nonstop. But Troy is one of those rare men who doesn’t need sex all the time, and it used to spark a lot of fights between us. Then I got pregnant with our son, Brendan. I thought I’d still want to have lots of sex, but I was so tired that I wasn’t up for it physically. A month before I gave birth, we’d stopped having sex altogether because it just got too awkward. We finally had sex again seven weeks after Brendan was born. I was worried that I was fat and ugly and that Troy wouldn’t want me anymore. But Troy was so gentle and sweet and didn’t care that my body was different — he told me I looked beautiful.
Once we got back in the groove, it felt like we were newlyweds again. Sexually, we could finally do all the things that we couldn’t do when I was pregnant. We also have this extra bond because we share this wonderful child. Our sex drives got more in sync too — we both want it two or three times a week. I think Troy’s desire has increased because of how much closer we are emotionally. And each day that I see Troy grow as a father, I just want him more and more. We do need to be a little more strategic now. Like recently, Troy came inside after mowing the lawn and said, “You know, I was thinking...,”and I knew right then what he wanted. We hurried upstairs and had sex while Brendan was napping — just an hour before I had to go to work.