New Ideas About Sexual Relationships

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Narrator
What's changed in the field of sexual relationships?

Dr. Ruth Westheimer, PhD
First of all, less unintended pregnancies, because of you television people, and because of me, and others, talking about it. So when I say less unintended pregnancies, that's not just among young people, that's even within marriage. So people do know more about contraception, and then what I'm very pleased about is that there are less women who don't have orgasms, which means that women have heard television, newspapers, I talk from morning til night, and they've heard that the message is a woman has to take the responsibility for her sexual satisfaction even the best lover, even television producer, the best lover that I could train can't bring a woman to sexual satisfaction if she doesn't give herself permission to be satisfied, so we have less women who don't know how to have an orgasm.

Narrator
How do you know that?

Dr. Ruth Westheimer, PhD
Because we know that from research, we know it from papers, and I know it from empirical observation. I get less couples into my office, I still do five hours a week. I get less couples into my office who, where the woman says I don't have orgasms. I get all kind of other problems. I get premature ejaculation, a man ejaculates faster than he wants to, I get a women who really doesn't feel like having sex, I get couples where the issue has nothing to do with sex, they are angry at each other because of a mother-in-law, but it gets played out because they bring it into the bedroom, and I say loud and clear leave it outside the bedroom. Make a little package with those worries. Leave them outside. They'll be there tomorrow morning. So it is not scientifically validated data that I can say that, but it certainly is empirical observation and because I hear so many stories.