Sexual Conditions Health Center

Sexual Desire Problems -- What You Can Do

Self-Care at Home

Treatment is not needed for all sexual problems. Some problems can be solved by you and your partner alone with a little openness and creativity.

• Some problems go away by themselves over time--patience and understanding are all that is required.
• Sometimes talking the problem out with your partner is enough. Women who learn to tell their partners about their sexual needs have a better chance of having a satisfying sex life.
• Try to make the solution fun -- think up ways to inject a little romance and excitement into your sexual routine.

Some strategies women use to overcome sexual problems:

• Set aside time to be alone or alone with your partner, without children and other distractions
• Use erotic videos or books to increase stimulation
• Masturbate to learn about what increases your arousal
• Fantasize about what arouses you sexually; if appropriate, tell your partner about these fantasiesUse sensual massage and other forms of touch
• Try new sexual positions or scenarios
• Use relaxation techniques such as a warm bath before having sex

• Use a vaginal lubricant to relieve arousal problems due to vaginal dryness

Several excellent books are available in mainstream bookstores or from mail-order sources to help couples deal with sexual and communication problems. Many people prefer this "do-it-yourself" method to talking about these problems with an outsider.