The symptoms of sexual problems in men include:
Lack of sexual desire, sexual fantasies, or interest in sexual contact
Inability to have or maintain any erection
Inability to have or maintain an erection sufficient for sexual functioning
Inability to reach an orgasm despite adequate sexual stimulation and signs of arousal
Ability to achieve orgasm only after an unusually lengthy period of stimulation
Ability to achieve orgasm only during masturbation or during oral sex
Set aside time to be alone or alone with your partner, without children and other distractions.
Use erotic videos or books to increase arousal.
Masturbate to learn about what increases your arousal.
Fantasize about what arouses you sexually; if appropriate, tell your partner about these fantasies. Use sensual massage and other forms of touch.
Try new sexual positions or scenarios.
Use relaxation techniques such as a warm bath before having sex.
Use a vaginal lubricant to relieve arousal problems due to vaginal dryness.
Several excellent books are available in mainstream bookstores or from mail-order sources to help couples deal with sexual and communication problems. Many people prefer this "do-it-yourself" method to talking about these problems with an outsider.