Syphilis is a sexually transmitted disease (STD) caused by the bacterium
. It has often been called "the great imitator," because so many of the signs and symptoms of syphilis are indistinguishable from those of other diseases.
Set aside time to be alone or alone with your partner, without children and other distractions.
Use erotic videos or books to increase arousal.
Masturbate to learn about what increases your arousal.
Fantasize about what arouses you sexually; if appropriate, tell your partner about these fantasies. Use sensual massage and other forms of touch.
Try new sexual positions or scenarios.
Use relaxation techniques such as a warm bath before having sex.
Use a vaginal lubricant to relieve arousal problems due to vaginal dryness.
Several excellent books are available in mainstream bookstores or from mail-order sources to help couples deal with sexual and communication problems. Many people prefer this "do-it-yourself" method to talking about these problems with an outsider.