Not all sexual problems require medical attention. Many people have temporary sexual problems that can be caused by medical problems or stress and anxiety in another area of their life. If you are distressed by the problem or you are afraid your relationship is threatened, don't be afraid or embarrassed to seek outside help. If your health care provider is unable to help you beyond ruling out physical problems, a mental health counselor should be able to help or point you in the right direction.
Any sexual problem that persists for more than a few weeks is worth a visit to your health care provider. He or she can rule out medical or medication-related causes and offer advice on solving other types of problems. Your health care provider can refer to other specialists, such as a psychotherapist, marriage counselor or sex therapist.
You may not be as lucky as a client of mine. There she sat over dinner, on a date with an interesting man she had just met through a matchmaking service. He had a cold and sinus headache. She pulled out her trusty but tiny pill holder that held one Advil, one aspirin, and one blue pill. She handed him the Advil -- not knowing that she had just had "the conversation."
It seems her date had recognized the distinctive blue pill -- because he took Zovirax for his own herpes. A few dates later, when...