Exercise, to improve your mood and increase natural testosterone levels.
Getting counseling as a couple can help strengthen your emotional connection with your partner. Improving a stressed relationship is likely to improve your sexual relationship.
There are also steps you can take at home that may raise your sexual desire. To learn more, see Home Treatment.
Having a partner you feel comfortable and nonstressed with plays a big part in your desire level. It's normal to lack desire for a partner who forces sex or is verbally abusive or physically violent.
Treatment for decreased sexual arousal
Treatment for decreased sexual excitement may include learning about the role emotions play and about how a woman's arousal sometimes depends on stimulating other parts of her body, especially her breasts.
Treatment may also include:
Changing treatment for certain illnesses, if that treatment has side effects that lower your arousal.
Counseling, to help adjust expectations of sexual activity. If too much pressure is put on partners to perform, it can affect arousal.
Steps you can take at home, such as use of vaginal lubricants or masturbation.