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    Missing Sleep and Your Partner

    You drag during the day and are sometimes too sleepy for intimacy.

    You may sleep separately from your partner and you may worry. You may be depressed or anxious, too. You have a hard time falling asleep and sometimes use sleep medications.

    These tips may help:

    • Don't rely on over-the-counter sleep medications. Treating sleep problems usually involves lifestyle changes, building better sleep habits, and treating any conditions that are affecting your sleep.
    • If you're depressed, get help. Sleep and depression have a complex link. Depression can cause sleep problems and vice versa. Insomnia is especially common with depression, and treatment can ease both.
    • Share your bedroom. Most partners want to sleep in the same room. Start working on the issues that keep you apart.

    Healthy, Lively Larks and Sleep-Savvy Seniors

    These two types of sleepers are least likely to have sleep problems and most likely to get enough – or more than enough -- sleep. They rarely or never feel tired. If you're a lively lark, you're probably a young, early riser and don't have any medical conditions. If you're a savvy senior, you may be retired, get up later than average, and supplement nighttime sleep with naps.

    This tip may help:

    • Don't take sleep for granted. Keep up good sleep habits, especially as you age. "When you're younger, you may be able to have two pots of coffee in the afternoon and sleep fine, but abuse of stimulants can catch up with you and cause problems later," Rosenberg says.