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Unhappy Marriages Lead to Restless Nights

Marital Discord Linked to Trouble Falling and Staying Asleep
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Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD

June 12, 2008 (Baltimore) -- Add sound sleep to the benefits of a happy marriage.

But if your relationship is fraught with strife, be prepared for long nights spent tossing and turning, new research suggests.

In a study of nearly 3,000 women, those who were in unhappy unions were about 50% more likely to suffer symptoms of insomnia than their happily married counterparts. Unmarried women were about 30% more likely to have trouble sleeping than women in happy unions.

The findings were presented at SLEEP 2008, the 22nd Annual Meeting of the Associated Professional Sleep Societies.

(Have you seen a trend with you and your partner? Talk with others on WebMD's Couples Coping message board.)

Which Comes First: Poor Sleep or Marital Strife?

"There's been a lot of research showing that married women sleep better than divorced women, but not much has been known about whether the status of that marriage affects sleep patterns," says Wendy M. Troxel, PhD, a psychologist at the University of Pittsburgh.

"What we found," she tells WebMD, "is that unhappily married women didn't differ much from unmarried women as far as insomnia goes. It's not marriage per se that is beneficial, it's a happy marriage."

The study leaves open the question of whether marital discord makes it harder to sleep or whether poor sleep can ruin a perfectly good marriage.

Troxel suspects it's the former. "Our hypothesis is that if you have a sense a support, someone with whom to unwind at the end of the day, you'll be less stressed and better able to fall asleep.

"An unhappy marriage, on the other hand, can be a source of stress. It can be harder to fall asleep when you're fighting with someone, particularly if they're lying next to you," she says.

Donna Arand, PhD, a sleep specialist at Kettering Hospital Sleep Disorders Center in Dayton, Ohio, agrees. "We've known for some time now that sleep is impacted by what happens to you during the day. Activities that promote stress and anxiety adversely affect sleep, and marital discord is certainly a major stressor," she tells WebMD.

Happily Married Women Have Fewer Insomnia Symptoms

The study involved 2,970 women, aged 42 to 52, enrolled in the Study of Women's Health Across the Nation. About one-third were happily married, one-third unhappily married, and one-third unmarried.

Out of total, about half were white, 20% were African-American, and 10% each were Hispanic, Chinese, or Japanese.

Compared with those in happy unions, unhappily married and unmarried women were more likely to experience any of four insomnia symptoms at least three times over a two-week period: trouble falling asleep, trouble staying asleep, waking up early, and restless sleep.

When looked at by ethnicity, the results held up in white, African-American, and Hispanic women.

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Since you usually get less sleep, please talk to your doctor about your sleep patterns. Poor quality sleep can affect many areas of your life and health, and your doctor may be able to help you if you have difficulty sleeping or have insomnia or other sleep disorders.

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Although sleep is crucial for optimal health, some research suggests that sleeping too much can have negative consequences. Learn more about sleep. If you're concerned about having trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or sleeping too much, assess your risk for a sleep disorder.

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Learn more about the health consequences of sleep loss. If you're concerned about having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, assess your risk for a sleep disorder.

It's wonderful that you got a good night's sleep last night. Many people struggle to do so. Having a good sleep routine often is the key to getting the quality sleep night after night that your body needs for optimal health.

Since you usually get less sleep, talk to your doctor about your sleep patterns. Poor quality sleep can affect many areas of your life and health, and your doctor may be able to help you if you have insomnia or another sleep disorder or conditions affecting your sleep.

Learn more about the health consequences of sleep loss. If you're concerned about having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, assess your risk for a sleep disorder.

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Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Effect of short sleep duration on daily activities--United States, 2005-2008. MMWR Morb Mortal Wkly Rep 2011; 60:239.

Carskadon, MA, Dement, WC. Normal Human Sleep: An Overview. In: Principles and Practices of Sleep Medicine, Fifth, Kryger, MH, Roth, et al. (Eds), Elsevier Saunders, St. Louis, MO 2011. p.16.

Harvard University: "Sleep, Performance, and Public Safety."

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