3 Common Conditions Women Don't Talk About: Incontinence, Lack of Desire and Irritable Bowel Syndrome
Increasing Female Libido continued...
Women often decide to get help when they realize that their lack of desire
is affecting their relationship, says Whipple. When treating a woman with
diminished libido, a doctor is likely to first take a detailed medical
"Many medications can affect your lack of desire," Whipple says,
including antidepressants, tranquilizers and oral contraceptives. "If your
ovaries have been removed, it can affect desire."
"Stress decreases testosterone in both men and women, and that affects
desire," she says. Incontinence can diminish sexual desire, too, she
Ruling out or treating medical problems that may affect desire, such as
diabetes, and eliminating medications (or switching to other medications) may
help restore desire.
Communication with your partner about what he can do to help you feel
aroused can increase female libido too, Whipple says.
A dietary supplement that includes ginseng, multivitamins, minerals, and
ginkgo, may help increase female libido, Whipple found in a recent study
published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy.
Another option is a botanical oil that, some studies indicate, improves
desire when massaged into the female genitals.
Simply changing your routine may help boost your desire. Try having sex in
different positions or at different times of the day.
Tackling the Subject
Bringing up sensitive topics with your doctor such as bladder, bowel, and
libido problems isn't easy, but it could bring you tremendous relief. Here are
some tips to remember:
- Be straightforward, clear, and honest. Try to remind yourself that, as
sensitive as these topics are, your physician is trained to deal with all types
of physical complaints, and will not judge or embarrass you.
- Prepare for a conversation with your doctor by noting when symptoms began,
how severe they are, and how the problem interferes with your daily routine.
Have a list of medications you take, too. Focusing on these practical details
may help you overcome any embarrassment.
- Keep your problem in perspective. None of the conditions is
life-threatening and all can be helped by an array of treatments. And consider
how great you are going to feel when you don’t have to live with the symptoms