How to Get Your Sexy Back
Sexiness isn't something you just turn on and off. You have to cultivate it, get in touch with your body. Once you tap in to your sensuality, a great sex life -- and a positive new outlook -- are just around the corner.
7. Exercise. There are a million reasons to hit the gym — lose
weight, lower stress — but the best one is to boost your sexiness. Sweat
releases endorphins, giving you a natural high. "When I feel low, I hit the
gym," says Jaime Sarrio, of Nashville. "I feel strong and sexy after a run on
the treadmill or a weight-lifting session."
8. Get nostalgic. Joanne Rock, of Peru, NY, creates lustful playlists
that remind her of when she was falling in love with her husband. "Hearing
those tunes sends my thoughts to sexy places," she says. Or take out photos
from when you two first started dating. Remember that wanton lust that overcame
both of you? Trust us, it's still there.
9. Make your most beautiful feature pop. Play up your eyes with a new
eyeliner, or try a different gloss on your lips. Or, if you normally go
natural, put on a little concealer. "When you feel beautiful, you feel
sensual," says Debbie Mandel, the author of Turn On Your Inner Light. Take the extra three or four
minutes to primp yourself and feel pretty — just for you.
10. Buy new underthings. Throw away those ripped, faded,
you've-had-them-for-four-years granny panties and invest in some new underwear.
The sexier, the better — but G-strings aren't required. New bikinis, boy
shorts, or even basic briefs can make you feel special.
11. Stop worrying. When you're focused on worry, the last thing on
your mind is feeling sexy, says Louann Brizendine, the author of The Female Brain and The Male Brain. Pinpoint what's bothering you and try
to set it aside. Write down your concerns and tuck them away. Or distract
yourself from a problem that's weighing on you by concentrating on a crossword
or Sudoku puzzle. And for Pete's sake, stop stressing over your thighs or your
tummy pooch. He's (really, truly, absolutely) not thinking about it, so why are
12. Breathe. Mindful breaths enhance and reinforce the mind-body
connection, says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., the founder of mypleasure.com. For a few
minutes each morning, close your eyes and breathe deeply. Clear your thoughts
and focus on being calm. When you're relaxed, it's easier to get in touch with
your inner sexiness.