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Jennifer Love Hewitt Dishes Dating Advice in 'The Day I Shot Cupid'

In her new book, the 'Ghost Whisperer' star tackles the dos and don'ts of online flirting, setting boundaries, and healthy romance.

Jennifer Love Hewitt: "Love Your Body"

A couple of years ago, Hewitt famously clashed with bloggers after pictures of her wearing a bikini on vacation prompted them to denounce her as being "fat." "To all girls with butts, boobs, hips, and a waist, put on a bikini -- put it on and stay strong," she wrote at the time. Ten weeks later, she popped up on the cover of Us Weekly nearly 20 pounds thinner, generating even more chatter.

The "ideal" Hollywood body-image is damaging, Hewitt says. "It's hard enough to be a woman and find your inner confidence when, every time you look at the TV or a magazine or the movie screen, you see these perfect people who seem like they can eat anything. But I'm in the business, and I know these people don't eat. And they're in the gym just as much as I am."

So celebrities who claim that they eat whatever they want or that they took off 50 pounds of pregnancy weight in four weeks by breastfeeding and chasing their toddler are lying?

"Yes! It's a constant beauty competition in this town. People are working their butts off, literally," Hewitt says.

"Sure, there are some, the Angelina Jolies and Penélope Cruzes, who are just drop-dead. But know that when you look at most of these people and they look so amazing, they're working on it all the time. And it takes two hours of hair and makeup and airbrushing and retouching. We're in the business of glamour and being the world's eye candy. But that's just what it is: candy."

If that candy inspires you to go to the gym and work a little harder, all well and good. But if it makes you doubt yourself, the effects can be brutal. "You've got to love yourself before it's too late. We have to remember that women usually worry about what they look like for other women, not for men," she says.

"If you have confidence in yourself, it doesn't matter if you're Gisele Bündchen. We have to stop thinking we're not good enough. If you walk into the room thinking, 'You would be so dumb not to leave with this tonight,' you're going home with the guy."

Jennifer Love Hewitt's Dating Dos and Don'ts

So what are the best bits of wisdom Jennifer Love Hewitt has gathered through years of good dates and bad dates, dumping and being dumped, falling in love and losing at love, and starting again?

1. Always buy a new top or dress before a date. It will make you feel like a million bucks.

2. Go on that first date looking like who you are. If you want to play a part later, you can have fun and even vamp it up. But if you're going to ask him to be real with you, start off by showing him your real self.

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