How to Stop Nagging
Find more effective ways to communicate in your relationship, and leave the nagging behind.
Life Beyond Nagging continued...
Whether it's finding new ways to communicate, or seeking help
from a therapist, nagging can be avoided.
"The key is finding alternative ways to reach your goals,
and being more productive and more loving," says Weiner-Davis.
So how can you tell that you've become a nag? According to
Weiner-Davis, here are a few key signs:
- You're increasingly frustrated because you're not getting through to your
partner, despite asking again and again.
- Your partner becomes increasingly defensive each time you ask for
- The things that bother you tend to grow in scope -- you're more bothered by
more things, more often.
- Your irritation is contagious -- the more irritated you get, the more
irritated your partner gets.
- The weaknesses in the relationship, such as what your partner isn't doing
despite your attempts at effecting change, become the focus, rather than the
strengths in your relationship.
- The most obvious sign that you tend to nag: You've said the same thing five
different ways, five different times, and yet you keep on going