Your ankles are swollen, you're running to the bathroom every five minutes, and you can't find a comfortable position in which to sleep. Yep, you're pregnant, and most likely, you're also feeling, well, just a tad stressed out. Duh! you say.
The bad news is that stress during pregnancy is more than just an inconvenience; it's actually unhealthy for you and your baby. The good news is that there are ways to cope with it.
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Add to those your concerns over a troubled economy, general instability in the world, ongoing threats of terrorism, and you've got an entirely new set of stressors. In fact, in a survey commissioned by CIGNA HealthCare entitled "Troubled Times: How Americans Are Coping In A Stressful World," findings indicate that 64% of expectant mothers say their lives are more stressful than they were a year ago. The survey, conducted in conjunction with CIGNA's support of the 2003 March of Dimes Prematurity Campaign, also found that 65% of expectant moms say they are concerned about the impact that stress during pregnancy is having on themselves and the health of their baby.
"For many women, having a baby is already stressful enough," says Whitehouse, medical director of CIGNA Behavioral Health in Bloomfield, Connecticut. "The additional concerns Americans face today around the war, a troubled economy, and job security may be leading some expectant mothers to experience stress overload."
According to the March of Dimes, one in eight babies in the United States is born prematurely. High levels of sustained stress, says Whitehouse, may be an important factor in causing these premature births. "That's why finding ways to manage stress is important for expectant moms," he says.
"It's well established that stress can affect your health," Whitehouse continues. "But research shows that pregnant women should pay particular attention to this connection." Some suggestions?
Take good care of yourself. Eat regularly and nutritiously, get plenty of rest, do moderate exercise, avoid alcohol, cigarette smoking, or drugs.
Don't stress out about stress. It's normal to feel stressed, especially during these turbulent times. But look at what's causing your stress and take whatever practical steps you can to address those things that you can control.
Avoid negative responses to stress. Some of the things we do to deal with stress only compound the problem. Unhealthy ways of coping with stress include withdrawing from people, sleeping to escape problems, skipping meals or eating junk food, and using alcohol and tobacco.
Schedule time for yourself. Many women have a difficult time saying no to everyone else's requests. This is the time to be selfish. Schedule regular leisure time for yourself to do those things that help you relax. Exercise, meditation, massage therapy, deep breathing exercises, even reading a book or listening to soothing music can be relaxing.
Ask for help. Surround yourself with love and support. Expand your support network of friends and family. Insist on help with regular chores. See if your employer offers prenatal or employee assistance programs that can provide information and support. If you have problems with sleep, appetite, sadness, crying, loss of interest in normally enjoyable activities, or excessive feelings of guilt, and these symptoms occur almost every day for more than two weeks, talk to a professional; you may be suffering from depression.