And now we're going to toss it over to Bipolar Expert Answers Lisa Sundstedt. Lisa?
All-righty. Welcome back to Bipolar Expert Answers. I'm your host Lisa Sundstedt. I'm kind of an expert on bipolar myself, but the real expert today in the studio is Dr. Marianne Gillow, noted psychiatrist.
Here's a very long but good question doctor. Kat Amber says, "I've been dating my boyfriend for about nine months. Things were okay in the beginning, but then his personality began to change.
He is now very abusive and controlling, not to mention his chronic lying. I met his mom. She told me he was bipolar. The problem is that he doesn't believe he's bipolar.
He refuses to get any help even though he's had thoughts of suicide. I love him. I know that he loves me. However, I'm extremely frustrated dealing with someone who refuses to get help.
Any advice? I really don't know what to do."
What would you tell to Kat Amber?
Well. Kat, I'm definitely concerned for both you and your boyfriend. Of course, the easiest advice I can give is to get into therapy for yourself to look at what you're getting out of the relationship
and to see whether or not you have some kind of rescue fantasy. Next stop is my concern about the young man, is that, I'm concern that there's more than just bipolar disorder going on here.
In fact, a lot of people with bipolar disorder are well-controlled with medication. Lying and abusive behavior are not really considered part of the bipolar syndrome per se.
Every-so-often, behavior like that can happen during a manic episode, but I, I believe it's a myth that bipolars would be dangerous, abusive or lying.
Yeah, he sounds like could just be an ---
Well, we don't have a DSM-4 term for that. But what I would say is that he may be bipolar or he may be sociopathic which would be a bipolar plus.
And again, Kat if you can get yourself into therapy and really look at what's going on here I think you will be well served by that.
Or even a support group maybe what you could do is go and look up NAMI on a computer and find support groups in your area for people who are involved with people who are mentally ill.
Thank you. Good luck.