Hello and welcome back to "Depression: Expert Answers". I'm your host Amy Alpine,
and as luck would have it we have a depression expert here in the studio today whose going to be answering questions from WebMD's depression exchange board–Dr. Melva Green.
Dr. Green thank you so much for being here.
Always my pleasure.
One of our members writes in:
"I have been diagnosed with depression and have lost my sex drive completely. How do I help my spouse know it's not them and that I still love them??
Amy you're a psycho-therapist, you know at the heart of every great relationship is great communication.
So it starts with asking questions. And listening. Often times people don't think about it.
Even the most well intentioned spouse or partner may not realize that their partner, whose not suffering from depression, is maybe feeling equally as helpless.
One of the things they can do, start with a very very simple question: Honey, how are you doing with all of this? And then just listen.
I guarantee you, the compassionate question, the very unexpected question opens a dialogue that neither of them expected, and again we all know sex starts in the brain.
And it's about communication and coming together as a couple.
And that's another thing they can do. This is a great opportunity to engage their psychiatrist, or their physician. Whoever is caring for them in that way. Have a third party on the team.
Have them come in, sit down. Let them ask questions, and get a better understanding. Often times people with depression feel the need to defend their actions or defend their feelings,
so having a third party to really just listen and tease out some of the other factors that they may not be communicating. Then that's a team approach.
Right, That's so important. Dr. Green thank you so much for being here and we'll see you next time on "Depression: Expert Answers"