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    Talking to Your Daughter About Puberty & Sex?

    Answer a few questions, and you'll get:

    • Tips on how to start the conversation or keep it going
    • Personalized messages on puberty topics you're unsure about
    • Information you can give to your daughter about issues she's having

    Reviewed by Hansa D. Bhargava, MD on December 05, 2013



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    Dina Zeckhausen, Ph.D., psychologist and founder of the Eating Disorders Information Network and co-founder of PFPA, Atlanta, Georgia.

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    James Greenblatt, M.D., medical director of Walden Behavioral Care in Waltham, Massachusetts.

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    Carolyn F. Davis, M.D., obstetrician and gynecologist and assistant professor with the Virginia Commonwealth University School of Medicine, Inova Fairfax Hospital Campus, Northern Virginia.

    Davis, C. 100 Questions & Answers About Your Daughter’s Sexual Wellness and Development, Jones and Bartlett Publishers, 2010.

    Rosalind Dorlen, Pdy.D., clinical psychologist at Overlook Hospital, Summit, N.J.

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    KidsHealth: “Understanding Depression.”

    Susman EJ; Houts RM; et al. Longitudinal development of secondary sexual characteristics in girls and boys between ages 9-1/2 and 15-1/2 years. Arch Pediatr Adolesc Med. 2010 Feb;164(2):pp 166-173.

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    Susan Fee, professional clinical counselor, Sagamore Hills, Ohio.

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    Robyn McKay, Ph.D., Chair of Arizona State University Polytechnic's Commission for the Status on Women, staff counselor, Tempe, Arizona.

    Irene S. Levine, Ph.D., professor of psychiatry, New York University School of Medicine, New York, New York.

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    Merck Manual: “Delayed Puberty.”

    Medscape: “Late Age of Menarche Linked to Lower Risk for Endometriosis.”

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    American College of Sports Medicine: “Hit the Treadmill – Not Just the Books – to Boost Grades."

    Apter D; Vihko R. Early menarche, a risk factor for breast cancer, indicates early onset of ovulatory cycles. J Clin Endocrinol Metab 1983 Jul;57(1):pp 82-86.

    CDC: “STDs in Adolescents and Young Adults.”

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    Stanford School of Medicine: “Teens advised to consider benefits of IUD use for birth control.”

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