Strategies for Raising Healthy Eaters

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Here are a few thoughts from nationally known nutrition experts and our instructor Elizabeth Ward, MS, RD, on how to get kids to go from picky eaters to people with sound, varied diets.

1. Avoid the Power Struggle

One of the surest ways to win the battle but lose the war is to engage in a power struggle with your child over food, says Jody Johnston Pawel, LSW, CFLE, author of The Parent's Toolshop. With power struggles you are saying, "Do it because I'm the parent" and that's a rationale that won't work for long, she says. But if your child understands the why behind the rules, those values can lay the groundwork for a lifetime of sound food choices, whether you are there to enforce them or not, she says.

2. Let Kids Participate

Get a stepstool and ask your kids to lend a hand with easy tasks in the kitchen, says Sal Severe, PhD, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too.

"If they participate in helping to make the meal, they are more likely to want to try it," he says.

"It's also a great way to put the ball back in the child's court when it comes to food preferences," says Pawel.

3. Don't Label

Severe reminds parents that, more often than not, kids under 5 are going to be selective eaters. "It's rare to have a child that will eat anything you put in front of them. Being selective is actually normal," Ward says. She prefers the term "limited eater" to the more negative "picky."

4. Build on the Positives

"When I sit down with parents, we'll often find that their child actually does eat two or three things from each food group," says Ward. Just as children can get great comfort out of reading the same story over and over, they also enjoy having a set of "predictable" foods.

"Even though they aren't getting a wide variety of foods, they are actually doing OK nutritionally," says Ward. When the child goes through a growth spurt and has a bigger appetite, use that opportunity to introduce new foods to their list of old standbys, she says.

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5. Expose, Expose, Expose

Ward says a child needs to be exposed to a new food between 10 and 15 times before he or she will accept it. But many parents give up long before that, thinking their child just doesn't like it, she says. So even if your child only plays with the strawberry on her plate, don't give up. One day she just may surprise you by taking a bite. However, don't go overboard and try to introduce three new foods at every meal, says Severe. Limit exposure to one or two new foods a week.

6. Don't Bribe

Avoid using sweets as a bribe to get kids to eat something else, says Pawel. Doing so can send the message that doing the right thing should involve an external reward. The real reward of sound nutrition is a healthy body, not a chocolate cupcake.

7. Beware of Over-Snacking

Sometimes the problem isn't that the child doesn't like new foods, but that they are already full, says Ward. "Kids can consume a lot of their calories as milk and juice."

The same goes for snacks that provide little more than calories, such as chips, sweets, and sodas. "If you are going to offer snacks, make sure they are supplementing meals, not sabotaging them," she says.

8. Establish Bottom-Line Limits

Having a set of bottom-line limits can help a parent provide some consistency, says Pawel. For example, some parents may require that kids eat nutritious foods before snack food. Or that they must at least try a new food before rejecting it.

"Consistency only works if what you are doing in the first place is reasonable," she says. So try to avoid overly controlling or overly permissive rules. If bottom-line limits are healthy, effective, and balanced, they'll pay off.

9. Examine Your Role Model

Make sure you aren't asking kids to "do as I say, not as I do," says Pawel. If your own diet is based mainly on fat, sugar, and salt, you can hardly expect your child to embrace a dinner salad over fries.

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10. Defuse Mealtimes

Don't make your child's eating habits part of the mealtime discussion, says Ward. Otherwise every meal becomes a stressful event, centered on what the child does and does not eat. Ward suggests parents reserve talks about the importance of good eating for later, perhaps at bed time or story time.

11. Give It Time

"I find that children become much more open to trying new foods after the age of 5," says Ward. "Most of the time, kids will simply grow out of limited eating."

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