I am a 30-year-old male, very healthy, active, and fit. I've been married for five years and have a very healthy, satisfying sex life. There are times after having intercourse and reaching orgasm that my wife and I would like to have sex again, but it takes 30-40 minutes for me to achieve another erection. When I do, it is not as firm as I would like it and I'm often unable to achieve orgasm. Is there anything we can do?
Your circumstances are very common, statistically speaking. There are exceptions, but that's what they are -- exceptions. I think that spending another 40 minutes caressing, kissing, massaging, nuzzling, and the like is a wonderful way to pass the time. If you are trying to have a second round because your partner wants it, keep sex toys in mind. They can offer all sorts of creative and fun options.