What Are Strap-On Toys?

Medically Reviewed by Zilpah Sheikh, MD on September 18, 2024
3 min read

Strap-on toys are dildos (sex toys) that you can wear with a harness. You can buy both pieces together as a set or buy them separately. Many dildos work together with a wide variety of strap-on harnesses.

When you use a strap-on with someone else for anal penetration, it’s called pegging. People with vaginas can use strap-ons with each other for sexual penetration. Those with penises can use a strap-on to give someone with a vagina double penetration. With a special harness, you can also penetrate someone with your foot.

Using a strap-on takes planning, communication, and patience. Here are some tips for a more pleasurable experience:

Find the right fit. Choosing a strap-on involves two parts: the harness and the dildo. The harness should fit securely without causing discomfort. If possible, try on different harnesses in a store to find the best fit. For the dildo, consider the materials you and your partner prefer, such as silicone or vinyl.

Use lube. Lubrication eases friction and makes you more comfortable. Choose a lube that’s compatible with your dildo's material. Avoid silicone-based lube with silicone dildos, as it can cause damage.

Communicate. Clear communication is key. Before starting, discuss using the strap-on with your partner and pay attention to their feedback, especially if you’re the wearer.

Adjust the harness. Adjust the harness for a snug fit to gain better control. A loose harness can make stroking difficult, causing a bad experience.

Start slowly. Begin with the strap-on wearer lying on their back so the receiving partner can control depth and sensations. Once you're comfortable, you can explore other positions.

Be patient. Using a strap-on takes practice, so be patient with yourself as you learn.

Some enjoy strap-on sex because it allows them to experience penetrating a partner in a new way. People with vaginas may enjoy the role reversal of using a strap-on with someone who has a penis or receiving vaginal or anal penetration with a strap-on.

Those with penises could take pleasure in anal penetration because of their prostate gland. Stimulating this gland through anal play usually feels good.

Some people also enjoy performing oral sex on a strap-on. It could also be a game of power exchange, in which one partner — usually the one wearing the strap-on — is dominant, while the other is more submissive.

Only lesbians use strap-ons

Anyone can use a strap-on, regardless of your or your partner's gender or sexual orientation. There are strap-on harnesses for people with penises and people with vaginas.

Men who like getting pegged are gay

Men of all sexual orientations can enjoy anal penetration. It’s just another part of the body that can receive pleasure, such as the penis or vagina. 

You can't use a strap-on alone

You can use one even without a partner. There are special strap-on harnesses for beds, chairs, and other pieces of furniture that you can use for solo pleasure. You can also use a special harness for your foot to use on yourself in a kneeling position.

How you clean your strap-on harness depends on the material and model you choose. Some harnesses are made of fabric and can be washed in the washing machine, but a leather or latex harness requires special care. If you aren't sure how to clean your harness, read the packaging or contact the manufacturer.

The material of your dildo also determines how you'll clean it. In most cases, you can wash them with soap and water. You can boil non-vibrating dildos made of glass, stainless steel, and silicone to fully sanitize them.

Clean toys after each use to keep bacteria from growing. Then, store them in the original packaging, a plastic storage box, or a satin bag to keep dust and dirt off them.

Strap-on toys are dildos you can wear with a harness, and you can buy these pieces together or separately. You can use them for anal, vaginal, or oral sex. Make sure the harness fits securely and comfortably. Use lube, start slowly, and communicate with your partner. Cleaning your harness and dildo depends on the materials they are made from and the model. Read the care instructions or contact the manufacturer.