Today, Michael Barrette is a laid-back, seasoned father, but
this wasn't always the case. Before his son Brendan was born in August 1999,
Barrette reluctantly "enlisted" in Boot Camp for New Dads to learn the
A program that brings expectant fathers together with recent
dads and their newborns to learn from one another, Boot Camp for New Dads is
now in more than 120 communities in 36 states. Graduates -- the
"veteran" dads -- range in age from 16 to 60. Recruits, or
"rookies," come from all income brackets and all ethnic backgrounds.
Some are unemployed and others are corporate attorneys.
For men, the health benefits of bicycling may involve a troublesome
trade-off. While riding a bicycle burns calories and improves cardiovascular
fitness, too many hours on a bicycle saddle can compress the artery and vital
nerves leading to the penis.
The result? A risk of numbness, pain, and erectile dysfunction.
A male cyclist can place a significant percentage of his weight on his
perineum, an area between the scrotum and the anus where the nerves and
arteries to the penis pass. This pressure...
"I didn't think I would learn much because I thought I was
well-prepared for fatherhood," Barrette recalls. Because he was 9 when his
younger brother was born, Barrette had some experience changing diapers, but a
man's role in the family has changed dramatically in the more than 25 years
since then. Back then, fathers didn't even witness birth because they weren't
allowed in the birth room -- whereas today they are considered equal partners
in the process, and are increasingly expected to behave as such.
"When I found myself in a room full of guys talking about
what I was feeling, it was a profound experience," says Barrette, a
musician whose group included a physicist, a couple of police officers, and a
"It was a diverse group of guys all expressing the same
fears and hopes," he says. "Everyone is concerned about creating a bond
with their child."
Facing the Fear Factor
In a three-hour session, Barrette -- along with other rookie
dads, veteran dads, and a coach -- discussed the potential pitfalls of
fatherhood, such as the strain a new baby can put on a marriage and the baby
blues their partner might suffer following delivery. They also learned some
important "how-tos" -- such as how to swaddle, diaper, feed, and even
hold a baby. Depending on the locale, Boot Camp typically consists of one or
two initial sessions and ongoing support through monthly group meetings of new
"It's reassuring to hold and comfort a baby," says
Barrette. "The fear factor melts away when you get the baby in your