How can you tell if a guy's wife has cheated on him?
Well, it depends on the guy, of course, but I do recall my wife and I having dinner with a couple she knew better than I, and thinking that the husband was being awfully rude to the mother of his children.
"What was that about?" I asked my wife later.
"I think he's mad at his wife for cheating on him," she said.
"Wow. You mean he just found out?"
"No, this all happened five years ago."
For most guys in most matters, five years would be an...
You are either for Bush or you are against him. Same holds true for the war in Iraq, presidential candidate John Kerry, guns, abortion, and gay marriage.
With choices like this, it's no wonder the middle ground has faded into oblivion.
Why can't we all just get along?
In the 2000 presidential election, the winner in Florida was decided by a handful of votes no matter how you tally them. Democratic nominee Al Gore only won New Mexico by 366 votes. And things haven't changed all that much in the past four years. At no time, perhaps, in our history has the country been so divided over politics.
People either love Bush or hate him. And the same (to a degree) for Kerry. Polls consistently split down the middle, and people react to political issues not with vigorous debate but with anger and venom. Michael Moore's Bush-bashing film Fahrenheit 911 spawns Swift Boat Veterans eager to cast doubt on John Kerry's Vietnam valor.
Why are we so partisan all of a sudden? Is it a reaction to the isolationism brought on by terrorism, or is there something more basic (or more complicated) at work here?
"The intensely partisan, angry feelings on both sides are a displacement of fear and helplessness of the current situation in the world," opines Kerry J. Sulkowicz, MD, a New York-based psychoanalyst.
"Things are as bad as they have been in the last 20 years, and a lot has to do with 9/11 and global threats of terrorism," says Sulkowicz, also chairman of the American Psychoanalytic Association's committee on public information.
When people are angry and scared, Sulkowicz says, they tend to become more polarized and take hard, angry positions in one camp or another.
"Both sides become increasingly unable to understand the other side," he says. "As a society, we are much more involved in fighting our internal enemies as opposed to looking outward to what the real threats are." But "in some ways it's much easier to fight with Kerry than bin Laden."
There may be more at work than fears of terrorism, says presidential historian Tim Blessing, PhD, chairman of the history department at Alvernia College in Reading, Pa.