Whether you're bouncing back after a divorce, or recovering from the death of your life partner, returning to the dating scene is never easy.
Indeed, from the challenge of meeting someone new, to wondering if he'll call again, to those inevitable questions about sex and intimacy, the prospect of getting back in the groove can seem downright daunting.
By Carrie Sloan
It’s the dirty little secret of baby-making: After nine long months, you’re overwhelmed by the love you feel for your newborn -- and shocked to find how much havoc that bundle of joy is wreaking in the bedroom. If you’re feeling less than lusty after having a baby, you’re not alone. “It’s completely normal for both women and men’s libido to hit a rock-bottom low during the first six to nine months following the birth of your baby,” says L.A. ob-gyn Sheryl Ross, MD.
The important thing to remember, however, is that almost every woman shares at least some of that same anxiety. Moreover, if you do want to start dating again, you won't have to look far to find companionship!
According to the online dating company, Match.com, baby boomers are its fastest-growing group of members. Indeed, many in this age group are divorced, single, or widowed, and now find themselves back out on the dating scene for the first time in years.
Now, if you have a happy and fulfilling life without dating, you shouldn't feel pressured into a social scene that's not right for you. At the same time, if you're craving adult companionship and maybe even a little romance, don't be shy about filling those needs -- and the dating world is an excellent place to start!
To help you along the way, WebMD offers these tips from the experts on how to get started.
Adult Dating: Taking the Plunge
You've decided you want to try dating -- now what? How do you meet eligible people? Should you try online dating or do it the old-fashioned way, finding dates through friends and acquaintances?
San Francisco psychologist Jonathan Rosenfeld points out that dating is a numbers game: You're probably going to have to meet a lot of people before you find someone you really like. "If you are a busy adult with work you're committed to, and children at home, then you have to make dating efficient," Rosenfeld says. "And there is no more efficient vehicle than the Internet."
"Remember that you are looking for a good fit, not validation," Rosenfeld continues. "Many people make the mistake of putting out a generic profile that will attract a lot of people. But if you do that, you're going to attract a lot of people who aren't a good fit, and that can be exhausting - and demoralizing."