It can be scary to learn that someone you care about has breast cancer. You might feel sad or worried and wonder how you can help her (or him) get through it.
With the right steps, you can make things easier for your loved one and yourself after her diagnosis and during treatment. Here are some tips for family and friends of someone with breast cancer:
- Write your questions down so you don’t forget them. If it’s OK with your loved one, you can go with her to an appointment and ask the doctor about them. You may want to let other people know what you’re going to ask before you go.
- Be prepared for changes in your loved one's behavior and mood. Medications, side effects from treatment, and stress may make her feel depressed, angry, or tired.
- Encourage her to be active and to do as much for herself as possible. It will help her feel a sense of control.
- Don’t forget to take care of yourself, too. Be sure you get enough sleep, eat well, and take some time off for yourself. If you stay well, it will be easier to help your loved one.
- Ask other family members and friends to pitch in, too. They can bring meals, take the dog for a walk, or offer rides to doctor’s appointments. Most people will appreciate the chance to help.
A loved one’s illness can be stressful for you, too. To keep your worries from taking over:
- Try to keep a positive attitude.
- Accept that there are events you cannot control.
- Find some activities that help you relax. Take a walk, listen to music, or practice meditation or yoga.
- Exercise regularly. It’s a great way to fight tension, and it can help your body be better prepared to deal with stress.
- Rest and sleep. Your body needs time to recover from stressful events. Don't rely on alcohol or drugs to reduce stress.
- Think about joining a support group for family and friends of people with breast cancer. It might help to talk about what you’re going through with other people who understand what it’s like.