Divorce More Likely in ADHD Families?
Parents of ADHD Kids Nearly Twice as Likely to Split as Families without ADHD, Study Shows
"The bright spot is, the majority did not get divorced, even though the rate
is twice as high," Pelham tells WebMD. Previous research, done by others, has
found that mothers of children with ADHD are three times more likely to split
up with their husbands than are mothers of children without ADHD.
Another potentially bright spot: the proportion of parents who divorced
after the child with ADHD turned 8 did not differ significantly.
That finding may simply mean that "people have learned to cope and deal with
the situation," Pelham tells WebMD. ADHD is typically treated with medication,
behavior therapy, or both.
The study is published in the October issue of the Journal of Consulting
and Clinical Psychology. The first author is Brian Wymbs, PhD, a
postdoctoral fellow at the University of Pittsburgh.
Parents of ADHD children have tremendous stress, says Pelham, who has
researched that in other studies.
More stress can occur, he says, if parents disagree on what treatment to
offer the child.
"One of the problems in families with ADHD kids is, one parent will be
really concerned it's a problem and the other won't see it as a problem,"
Pelham says. A mother, for instance, may deal with school officials and hear
their concerns, he says, while a father may dismiss the behavior in a son with
ADHD as "He's just all boy."
"Sometimes you get differences in parental perceptions, leading to
disagreements," he says.
The study findings come as no surprise to other experts. "We've suspected
that marital discord and divorce are higher among families with children with
ADHD, but this study shows that in a clear way," says Charlotte Johnston, PhD,
professor of psychology and a long-time researcher on ADHD at the University of
British Columbia, Vancouver, who trained with Pelham as a graduate student.
"I think what this really adds is looking at the predictors, showing there
are child characteristics as well as parent characteristics."
The study findings seem to reflect anecdotal findings, says Bryan Goodman, a
spokesman for CHADD, Children and Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity
Disorder, a self-help organization that has more than 200 chapters for parents
nationwide. "It's very stressful for families dealing with this disorder."
Often, he tells WebMD, parents simply are not on the same page. "You can
have one parent who understands that the child has the disorder and that
treatment is available and that it's important the child be treated. And you
may have another parent having a hard time coming to terms with it and is
reluctant to have the child treated."
Parents need to work together, says Pelham. They need to focus, he says, on
learning better parenting skills. "Learning better skills as parents will not
only improve a child's function, but help them resolve disagreements and reduce
or minimize stress within the marriage."
Thinking long-term is crucial, he says. "Parent should not be thinking, 'I
will solve this in the next four weeks," he says. They should be aware, too,
that the core symptoms -- problems paying attention, impulse control -- tend to
get better as a child gets older but that not all symptoms improve with
Help for parents is available through such programs as the University at
Buffalo's Center for Children and Families, which Pelham directs, and
organizations such as CHADD.