The Oscar-nominated movie Away from Her portrays a long-married
couple struggling with Alzheimer's disease and the emotional toll it causes when
the wife, played by actress Julie Christie, gives her affection to another man
whom she meets in a nursing home.
This heart-wrenching and emotional dramatization of Alzheimer's brings home
the difficulties families face when a person's ability to recognize and
maintain relationships gradually declines -- especially when the relationship
is between a husband and wife.
Alzheimer’s aggression most often flares up during the later stages of Alzheimer’s disease. The person may become easily agitated, angry, and abusive -- often for no apparent reason. The person may curse, hurl insults, and scream. Though verbal assaults are more common than physical assaults, a person with Alzheimer’s disease may throw things or resist care by pushing and hitting.
This scenario becomes even more complicated when a person with Alzheimer's
is placed in a nursing home, and amidst the confusion and loss of memory, finds
new companionship with someone other than his her or spouse.
"One of the challenges of Alzheimer's is that it will cause a person to
lose the ability to recognize their loved ones, including their spouse,"
says Peter Reed, MD, senior director of programs for the Alzheimer Association.
"Once that recognition is gone, it can be very difficult for both the
patient and the family."
Experts offer WebMD insight into the minds of Alzheimer's patients who build
new bonds in a nursing-home setting with a person of the opposite sex, what
those connections can mean, how Alzheimer's affects families, including spouses
and children, and how they can cope with a disease that takes their loved ones
away from them.
Alzheimer's and New Bonds in a Nursing Home
More than 5 million Americans have Alzheimer's disease, according to the
Alzheimer's Association. It's a condition that causes problems with memory,
thinking, and behavior. Alzheimer's ultimately affects a person's ability to
work, engage in normal everyday activities, and maintain relationships.
So how can it happen, that two people with Alzheimer's connect at an
Richard Powers, MD, chairman of the medical advisory board of the
Alzheimer's Foundation, says that while it's doesn't happen all the time,
"it's common enough that we need to be able to deal with it in a thoughtful
and compassionate way."
Powers describes it as waking up in a strange location, where you don't know
anyone, and you can't understand your surroundings, and maybe, even the
language the people around you are speaking. If you meet someone else who
speaks the same language, someone who seems to be as lost as you are, wouldn't
you form a bond with this person, as two strangers in a foreign land?