2. Without being too severe, how can you prevent your kids from getting spoiled?
We limit gift-giving and insist that our daughter is gentle with her
toys. We teach her that it's important to "do nice" with her books and
toys so that she values them and cares for them, as opposed to feeling like
they are disposable and replaceable. -- Manda0814
On the whole, I'm trying to teach my son to ask nicely, to say “please” and
“thank you.” But he also needs to understand and learn that [even if] he
says “please” and asks nicely, he can't always have what he asks for. -- kats8P
I don't think [my kids are spoiled.] I'm not sure it's possible to
spoil twins -- you don't have the time. -- FunnyCoolLady
I don't believe in withholding things or attention from children to try
to avoid "spoiling" them. In my experience, that practice can
lead to adults who place too much value on material things, because they felt
short-changed as children. -- mariesalias
Basically, to prevent spoiling, we set limitations and don't give
in. I will let my daughter throw a huge public tantrum before giving into
her demands for a toy, or candy, or whatever else it may be. -- sophiasmom0629
In my book spoiling ... isn't loving. It is an easy answer, a palliative,
that avoids tougher issues and lessons. My son needs to know that in the
world, as an adult,he isn't going to get everything and anything he wants
just because. We are teaching him to be patient, giving, and loving. How
will it turn out? Ask me in about 40 years. -- Iocasta
3. How do you discipline your kids?
Time outs. I don't like spanking. I was spanked and I resented the
heck out of my parents for doing it.
[Using humor] can break those difficult moments that could
degenerate. If you can laugh, you can avoid getting angry. --FunnyCoolLady
We keep a fairly steady schedule so that our son knows what to expect.
We have strong personal self-control and act as role models to teach him
self-control and its value. He knows that if we say something, we follow
through on it. -- Iocasta
Sometimes we just let the consequences of what our daughter is doing do the
disciplining -- like if she puts her paper doll in the toilet she obviously
doesn't get to play with the paper doll anymore. She's learning that
every action she takes has a consequence, be it good or bad. -- mias_mommy1
We do "spank" with a swat on the thighs, but not in anger.
Our son gets a warning, then is told again, and [then] we ask if he wants a
spanking and count to three. We rarely get past two before he complies. -- sarahdear