Most Kids Adjust to Sudden Death of a Parent
But Study Shows 10% of Children Who Lose a Parent Are at Risk for Depression
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New York City-based child psychoanalyst Leon Hoffman, MD, agrees.
When a child loses a parent, he or she almost always loses two parents -- the one who passed away and the one who is mourning the loss of their spouse, Hoffman says. Hoffman co-directs the New York Psychoanalytic Society's Pacella Parent Child Center.
"The importance of the psychological state of the surviving parent is crucial to help children and adolescents cope with the death, especially with younger children," he tells WebMD.
"The surviving parent may not realize what is so painful to a child," says Louis Kraus, MD, chief of child and adolescent psychiatry at Rush University Medical Center in Chicago. Therapy may allow a child to share feelings they can't express to their parents.
It can't be a two-way street. "Parents can't rely on their children for emotional support," he says.
He likens it to putting on oxygen mask while on an airplane in the event of an emergency. Parents need to have their mask on before tending to their child.
The same holds with grief.
"They have to get themselves straight to be able to be there for the children," Kraus says.