If you have fibromyalgia, you may also be
having problems with your sex life or relationships. You could be
experiencing loss of libido or having difficulty with sexual performance. It's
also possible your libido is healthy, but the deep muscle pain and stiffness of
fibromyalgia may keep you from enjoying sex the way you used to.
It's not unusual for people with any chronic illness to complain about
having problems with their sex life. But a healthy sex life is important for
many reasons. Not only does sex strengthen an intimate relationship, but sexual
intercourse boosts endorphins. Those are the body's natural opioids that help
decrease pain and increase well-being.
Talking openly with your doctor and following a few practical tips can help you
resolve problems associated with fibromyalgia, pain, and sex. Then you can
begin to enjoy this aspect of your life again.
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What Causes Loss of Libido With Fibromyalgia?
Some of the medications, such as the SSRI antidepressants like Paxil and
Zoloft, used in the treatment of fibromyalgia may cause reduced sex drive. If
you take an antidepressant and have problems with libido, talk to your doctor.
A simple change of medication or a reduction in dose may improve your sex drive
and allow you to enjoy your relationships more.
Also, for some patients, having to deal with the uncomfortable symptoms of fibromyalgia,
including the ongoing pain, fatigue, anxiety, and stiffness, is
difficult enough without thinking of being physically active with sexual
activity. Learning to self-manage these symptoms with medications, exercise, and lifestyle habits may
help to boost your sex life.
How Can I Have Sex if I Hurt all Over From Fibromyalgia?
Some fibromyalgia patients give up romantic aspirations for fear of further
injury and pain. Yet being intimate with your partner is still possible. With
fibromyalgia pain and tender points, you need to work with your partner to find
the most comfortable position during sexual intercourse. For instance, if you
have fibromyalgia with low back pain, you may find that having your partner on top
or lying on his or her side is most comfortable for you. Or, if you're a woman
who has fibromyalgia and hip pain, you might use a
pillow between your knees to stabilize your body during sexual intercourse.
Just because you've "always had sex this way," does not mean that's the only
way. You need to be patient, take it slowly, and find the best sexual positions
that allow you to be intimate without causing further pain. Keep in mind, there
is no right or wrong way to be intimate with your partner.
Can Soaking in a Warm Bath Before Sex Help my Fibromyalgia Pain?
Moist heat, including soaking in a warm bath, can help ease fibromyalgia
pain and may allow you to enjoy sexual intercourse -- or any exercise --
without added pain. Heat increases blood flow to the site and decreases
stiffness, important because, along with pain, stiffness is a key symptom of
fibromyalgia. Regular moist heat applications or warm baths may help
temporarily to alleviate muscle pain or tender point pain, reduce muscle
spasms, and decrease inflammation.
When using moist heat, make sure it is not too warm or you can burn your
skin. You might soak in a warm bath for at least 15 minutes before sexual
intercourse or other physical activity to get the full benefit. You may also
soak in a warm bath after sexual intercourse or other physical activity. Other
popular types of moist heat include a warm shower (sit on a chair, if needed),
warm whirlpool or hot tub, heated swimming pool, and a moist heating pad.