You have this incredible best friend named Hannah. And you have been through
it all, together - marriage, pregnancy, parenting, job promotions, job loss,
spousal problems, maybe even divorce. There isn't anything that you and Hannah
haven't shared in your lifelong friendship. You couldn't be closer if you were
Then one day you meet Hannah for lunch. You're wearing this brand new blue
sweater and you can't wait to get her opinion on it. But when you ask her how
she likes it, she says it's nice -- but comments that she likes you better in
Menopause symptoms, like hot flashes and drop in sex drive, haven't changed. But the way women deal with menopause has.
"Women are becoming more accepting of the physical and emotional challenges that are associated with menopause and accepting them as natural, transitional changes," says Karen Giblin. She's the founder of Red Hot Mamas, a national menopause education program. "They're focusing on feeling good and looking at menopause more positively."
KABOOM! In an instant, your best friend turns into the wicked witch of the
West! You're feeling hurt beyond belief, immediately convinced she's always
been jealous of you, and, totally certain that the only reason she said you
look better in pink is because you actually look better in blue! Within moments
you work yourself up into believing she was never really your friend at
What's going on? It's just your brain -- on menopause! A time when
everything can seem topsy-turvey, when you cry at the drop of a hat, when every
single molehill looks like a mountain, and, yes, a time when even a seemingly
innocent comment from a good friend can leave you screaming mad or unbearably
Menopause Hormones Affect the Brain, Too
But what's happening, and why? In a word, the answer is
"The constant change of hormone levels during this time can have a
troubling effect on emotions ... leaving some women to feel irritable and even
depressed," reports the American College of Obstetricians and
Indeed, while everyone thinks of hormones as the chemicals that drive our
reproductive system, in truth, there are receptors for both estrogen and
progesterone throughout our body.
When these hormone levels begin to decline, as they do in the months and
years leading up to menopause, every system that has these hormone receptors
registers the change, and that includes your brain.
And while most of us can recite chapter and verse about what happens to our
uterus or ovaries around this time (including problems like irregular bleeding
or declining fertility), we hear very little about what happens when the
hormone receptors in our brain begin running on empty!