Self-esteem is how you feel about
yourself. You may have high self-esteem—you believe you are a good person—or it
may be low, and you question how "good" or "worthy" you are.
Everyone has low self-esteem at times. It may happen when someone says
something bad about you or questions how well you do something. But if you
often feel bad about yourself, you may stop believing in yourself. You may find
it hard to meet your goals and enjoy life.
By Sarah Mahoney
There's an inevitable rhythm to January 1 at my house. I take down the tree, vacuum up pine needles, and start making my New Year's resolutions. The list usually looks like this: Lose weight. Swear off TV and saturated fat. Eat salads. Call Dad more. Write that novel. Floss. By midday I'm worn out, intermittently dozing in front of a football game and swiping my husband's million-calorie nachos.
It's not that I totally lack discipline. It's just that I don't sufficiently appreciate...
People who have
anxiety or who are sick or have a disability may have
Building self-esteem is a lifelong process, but
it can help you feel better about yourself and your life. Here are some ways to
build your self-esteem. Start by picking something you'd like to try now. Later
you can decide if you'd like to try other ways.
Think about yourself
Try to do things that keep you
healthy, that show you respect yourself, and that give you pleasure.
Make your room, apartment, or home special for you.
Help someone or do a favor for somebody else.
Take time to do something you enjoy.
Spend time with people who like you and make you feel good about
A positive affirmation is
something good you say about yourself. It can be a good quality you have,
something good you believe about yourself, or something good you've done. It
also can be about a quality you would like to have or something you would like
to believe or do. Here are some examples:
"I am lovable."
"I am doing the best I can."
"I am a compassionate person."
"People care about me."
Here are some types of affirmations. See if you can come up
with at least five affirmations for each type.
Things you've achieved in your life, such
as getting a high school degree, paying off a debt, or learning a new
Your strengths, such as being loving,
organized, or creative
Things you're proud of, such as your good
relationship with your family, volunteer work you've done, or the home you've
Things you do that make you feel good about yourself, such as working out, growing flowers, or going to church
Make a list of your affirmations, and keep it where you can
read it often. The more you read your affirmations, the better you will feel
about yourself and your life.