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    Baby Got You Up At Night?

    Set Your Infant's Clock

    WebMD Feature
    Reviewed by Gary D. Vogin, MD

    Jennifer Drobny says that life with her 8-month-old daughter, Olivia, had become exhausting. The baby had never slept through the night. "We'd have to hold her and 'dance her' to sleep for an hour. Then she'd give us at most two hours' sleep and be awake again," says Drobny.

    "I thought with my experience, we wouldn't have behavior problems," adds the 30-year-old mother, a graduate student at the University of Nebraska Medical Center. But after eight months of being awoken every two hours every night, Drobny was exhausted. Then she happened to run into psychologist Brett Kuhn in a hallway one day at the university. Kuhn, an assistant professor and pediatric sleep specialist, asked Drobny how she was doing. "I just started crying," she says.

    Kuhn offered Drobny a solution to her (and her baby's) troubles: Let Olivia "cry it out."

    That approach seemed awfully harsh to Drobny, at least at first. "I couldn't go cold turkey," she admits. After 10 days of preparing the baby for the change, Drobny left the house for two nights and let her husband Jeff launch the effort. Night 1 brought lots of awakenings and even a 90-minute crying fit. On night 2, things seemed to get better. Nights 3 and 4 were worse. Then a miracle: "She slept through the night last night," Drobny said after the fifth round.

    Her advice to exhausted parents of night-rowdy infants: "Don't wait to get help."

    And if you're stumbling through the day red eyed because your baby won't let you get sleep, there's more good news: The approach that proved successful for Drobny isn't the only thing you can try.

    Night Means Sleep

    Experts agree that there's not much parents can do to affect a baby's sleep cycle for at least the first month. The baby has no concept of day and night and doesn't associate night with sleep.

    That means: Be prepared to feed, rock, dance, sing, or hum the little one to sleep. "Baby rules" for this period, advises psychologist Jodi Mindell, associate director of the Sleep Disorders Center at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia and author of Sleeping Through the Night.

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