Talk about it
Caring for a colicky baby can be terribly isolating -- not only
because a mother may hesitate to impose her child's behavior on others, but
because of the often painful feelings she tends to keep bottled up inside
herself. "It's OK to express what you're thinking, even if it's not very
positive," says Lester.
Often what you may get in return is affirmation from someone
else who's been through what you're experiencing. Turning to a therapist may
also be extremely helpful. "Mothers who come into the clinic often admit
that it's the first time they've felt comfortable expressing what they really
feel. Often, the simple fact that professionals are acknowledging that a mom
has a challenging kid on her hands legitimizes what she's experiencing and
provides a great sense of relief," notes Lester.
"Getting to that point -- where you can say, 'Hey, my child
has a problem, it's not me' -- even admitting that your baby is a pain in the
neck -- is very freeing and very healthy."