10 Parenting Tips for Raising Teenagers
How do you breach the barriers of adolescence? Here are 10 parenting tips for raising teenagers.
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7. Give teens a game plan. Tell them: "If the only
option is getting into a car with a drunk driver, call me -- I don't care if
it's 3 in the morning," says Bodrow. Or make sure they have cab fare. "Help
them figure out how to handle a potentially unsafe situation, yet save face,"
she suggests. "Brainstorm with them. Come up with a solution that feels
comfortable for that child."
8. Keep the door open. Don't interrogate, but act
interested. Share a few tidbits about your own day; ask about theirs. How was
the concert? How was the date? How was your day? Another good line: "You may
not feel like talking about what happened right now. I know what that's like.
But if you feel like talking about it later, you come to me," Elkind
9. Let kids feel guilty. "I think too much is made about
self-esteem," says Elkind. "Feeling good about yourself is healthy. But
people should feel bad if they have hurt someone or done something
wrong. Kids need to feel bad sometimes. Guilt is a healthy emotion. When kids
have done something wrong, we hope they feel bad, we hope they feel
10. Be a role model. Your actions -- even more than your
words -- are critical in helping teens adopt good moral and ethical standards,
says Elkind. If they have a good role model from early on, they will be less
likely to make bad decisions in their rebellious teen years.