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10 Things to Do When Your Child Loses His Cool

By Kara Mayer Robinson
WebMD Feature

Parenting can be the most rewarding job ever, but it also can be one of the hardest, like when the child you love dearly is spinning out of control.

It happens to every parent. Just remember to breathe, and try these strategies to get your kid – and yourself - back on track.

1. Know the signs. It’s much easier to stop a meltdown in its tracks if you see it coming. “Tantrums are like dominoes,” says Houston psychologist James H. Bray, PhD. “Once a few fall, they’re all going to fall.”

Learn the signs that your child is getting worked up. Then, you can teach him to see them, too.

2. Distract little ones. Diversions often can help children 3 and younger. Show them a toy, or start an activity to shift attention and head off a tantrum.

At this age, kids don’t understand the concept of cause and effect, so discussions aren’t effective.

3. Take a break. Removing your child from whatever’s getting him worked up. This gives him a chance to calm down and soothe himself, which is an important skill to learn.

Have young kids lie down with a favorite toy or sit on the couch. Older kids can be taught self-soothing strategies like taking a deep breath, counting to five or ten before talking, or distracting themselves,Bray says.

4. Show self-control. “The hardest thing is to remain calm and not engage,” Bray says. If you feel yourself getting upset, step back, take a deep breath, and give yourself time to regroup.

“Kids are going to learn much more from their parents’ behavior than from what they say,” he says.

5. Speak firmly. Explain what you need from your child, but don’t lecture or yell.

Be firm and set boundaries. “Remind your child that this is the rule. Do it in a calm way rather than getting emotional,” Bray says.

If your child misbehaves and you give him a hug because you think it’ll calm him down, it will reinforce bad behavior.

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