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Keeping the Honeymoon Alive

Having a child shouldn't mean the end of intimacy.

WebMD Feature

March 7, 2000 (Santa Fe, N.M.) -- It's probably always been a struggle to maintain emotional intimacy with one's partner while taking care of young children, but according to new findings at the University of California at Berkeley, putting the two together is becoming more and more difficult.

Carolyn Pape Cowan and Philip Cowan, University of California at Berkeley psychologists, have been studying young parents -- two-job families -- since 1979. In the latest edition of their book, When Partners Become Parents: The Big Life Change for Couples (January 2000), results of recent research following 100 families who had 4-year-old children show that the risk of marital strain for such couples has increased in the last 10 years, while the level of support has fallen.

"Parents are more stressed now than were parents in the mid-90s, and as a society we don't take very good care of the parents in our communities," says Carolyn Cowan. "Then we wonder why there are problem children and why so many couples split up." She cites increasing work pressures and fewer provisions for health care among the stresses felt by the families she studied. Since these families have two incomes, says Cowan, the assumption might be made that they have no problems. "But such couples often have little time together."

"They are tired, and isolated," Cowan says. "The danger is that stress seeps into their relationship as couples; then the children feel it and tend to have more behavior problems or worry about things being their fault, or get depressed, even aggressive. And that adds to the spiral of family tension." In these circumstances, an event such as a child's starting a new school or a parent's job change can trigger a family meltdown.

The Pressure-Cooked Family

Consider one young pair of hard-working attorneys, married five years, with a 3-year-old daughter who had been attending a fine day care center with extended hours where she was blissfully happy. But when the day care owner abruptly decided to close, the parents soon found themselves arguing late at night, and their daughter would wake up crying. They hadn't realized how tired they were, or how vulnerable, says Cowan. Also cited in the study was a new father who found himself receiving a cigar in the boss's office on a Friday just after the baby's birth. "But just don't forget," the boss reminded the happy dad, "I still want that report on my desk by Monday. "

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