Napping is an important part of your toddler's day as well as yours. Your child needs to recharge and reboot or everyone will suffer the consequences. And you count on nap time to get the things done you need to do. But why are naps so critical to youngsters, and when do they outgrow the need? How can you make sure naps don't interfere with your tot getting a good night's sleep? The answers in the following guide will help you improve not only your toddler's nap routine but also, dare we say it, your family's overall sense of happiness.
Understand Your Child's Changing Sleep Needs
Charles Shubin, medical director of the Children's Health Center of Mercy Family Care in Baltimore, says, "Napping conserves energy. When going through a growth spurt, an infant or toddler will sleep more and eat more because the energy demand is tremendous."
Shubin says, "To grow, we need adequate calories and ample sleep. And that is why babies sleep more than we do." He adds that as toddlers get older, they will eat and sleep less. Some of this sleeping is done with naps, while some takes the form of nighttime sleep. Exactly how it's divided depends largely on the child's age and developmental stage, he says.
Newborns sleep between feedings all day and all night long, Shubin says. "At around 3 months, they start developing a day/night variation and their longer sleep will hopefully be at night." This typically doesn't happen much earlier because newborns need to eat every few hours and just can't get the stretch they need at night.
Let Naps Play Out Naturally
Susan Zafarlotfi, clinical director of the Institute for Sleep and Wake Disorders at the Hackensack University Medical Center in New Jersey, says, "Infants sleep 16 to 20 hours per day. As time goes on, they outgrow sleeping the entire day and only take two naps -- one in the morning and one in the afternoon."
According to pediatrician Greg Yapalater, naps tend to work themselves out. Nap patterns are usually established when the child is an infant and often revolve around feeding schedules. This helps shape the schedule going forward. "You are probably feeding every three hours," he says, "which is four bottles a day. So things start falling into place and then what you are going to do about naps becomes very straightforward." Some parents, he says, may choose an hour after the first bottle for the morning nap and then an hour after the midday bottle for the afternoon nap.
"If your child goes to day care," sleep specialist Rafael Pelayo, an associate professor of sleep medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine, says, "shoot for the same schedule that the facility imposes regarding naps."
Know When It's Nap Time
"Tune in to your kids' signs that they are ready to nap," Shubin says. "Some kids sit there and stare. Some get fussy, and some kids cry when they are ready to nap."
Do not ignore these cues, you and your child will be much happier when he is put down for his nap at this time.
Create an Ideal Napping Environment
"Try to put your child in the same environment for each nap," Yapalater says. "Don't let your child nap in the crib one day, a day bed the next, and in your bed the day after that," he says. Why? "You really want the napping environment to be as consistent as possible so your child will associate it with going to sleep," he says.
"You can't force anyone to take a nap, but you can create the environment for sleep," Yapalater says. "Tell your child, 'You can sleep, be awake, or sing, but you have to stay put,'" he says. "Don't make an appearance as you would at night because there are more distractions during the day. So it doesn't take much for them to say, 'There is too much going on here for me to nap.'"
Don't Let Your Toddler Nap in the Stroller
This may be convenient, especially if your sleepy tot doesn't transfer well. But it can be dangerous, Yapalater warns. "Do not let your children nap in strollers, bouncy seats, or car seats that are parked on the floor because these places are not made for sleeping unless they are constantly monitored." Accidental strangulation, suffocation, or entanglement can occur due to all the buckles and straps.
Let the Morning Nap Drop Out Naturally
For most children, the morning nap drops out by 12 to 18 months because they need less sleep. "Let this happen on its own," Shubin says. "Your child will stick to an afternoon nap until they are anywhere from 2 1/2 to 4 years old. Some 3- or 4-year-olds still take an afternoon nap, but 6-year-olds don't nap."
Be Careful of Dropping a Nap Too Soon
"There is not a hard-and-fast rule about outgrowing naps," Mary Michaeleen Cradock, a clinical psychologist with St. Louis Children's Hospital in Missouri, says. "You may start to see signs that the child wakes up earlier from a nap, or they may not show any signs that they need one."
Nap refusal for an 18-month-old is not a sign that he or she is outgrowing the need to nap as it might be for a three-year-old. "If a child doesn't want to take a nap," Craddock says, "he or she may just be overtired."
"If it's a day or two of protesting, don't subtract the nap too fast. But if nap protesting goes on for a couple of weeks, then it may be time to give it up," Yapalater says.
Don't Sweat Nap Time
Some parents are really uptight about their toddlers napping schedule. "They get carried away and the whole day is centered around the napping schedule," Pelayosays. "If getting your toddler down for a nap is interfering with your life, it's a problem. You have to be flexible. You can always slip in a shorter nap or a later nap."
Shubin agrees: "Nap schedules are more about parents. There aren't rigid guidelines about when and how long a child should nap. Most tables are pure approximations."
Keep Naps Short and Sweet
"If nap is more than one hour and 45 minutes, your kids may wake up cranky," Pelayo says. "Ninety minutes is just right."
Don't Trade in a Nap for an Earlier Bedtime
This may sound like a good plan, but it doesn't work and may even backfire, Cradock says. "If you keep them up to make them more tired, they will be too restless and unsettled to use the normal self-soothing routines that put them to sleep at night," she says. A better plan is to tweak the nap or nap schedule by shaving off 15 minutes or starting the nap earlier in the day. Later naps are not always the best call because your child needs to get a certain amount of daylight, and napping until its dark may prevent this from occurring, Cradock says.
Use the Same Routine for Napping as Nighttime Sleep
"If you have a good nighttime sleep routine, such as doing something calming or reading a book to your child before bed, you can repeat this ritual for nap time to increase the likelihood of a successful napper," Cradock says. "If at night, you hold and rock your child until they fall asleep and at nap time, you put them in their room and suggest a nap, it's probably not going to happen."
Sleep time should be consistent.