It often seems like teenagers never listen, but they do. That's why it's so important to remember that you are still the primary role model, even as your child grows older.
The single most important thing you can do to help your teen is to show that you love him or her no matter what.
Teenagers may be growing up, but they still need to:
Feel safe and loved.
Learn social skills.
Learn to handle stress.
Discover and develop their special talents.
Help your teen learn about important issues and be prepared for increasing responsibilities. Give teens freedom to figure things out in their own way within the boundaries you have set. Parents walk a fine line between respecting a teen's need for independence and privacy and making sure that he or she does not make serious mistakes.
Help your child learn how to bounce back after setbacks. After acknowledging the hurt or disappointment your teen may feel, encourage him or her to view setbacks as opportunities for growth, learning, and perseverance. Ask your teen what, if anything, he or she could have done differently and how, in a similar situation in the future, things could be handled better.
Spend time with your teen. Make time in your schedule for you and your teen to do something together or just talk.
Encourage community service. Both your teen and community members are helped when your teen volunteers. Your teen gets the chance to explore how he or she connects with others. While helping peers, adults, and other people, your teen can gain new skills and new ways of looking at things.