Give Your Libido a Lift
How to get in the mood for love
A Balanced Diet to the Rescue
If you're feeling hurried and harried, give the balanced-diet option a gander to start with. You have nothing to lose, and improved health (and, possibly, improved libido) to gain.
I'm not going to cite all sorts of statistics on the shocking percentage of women today who complain of low libido. Suffice it to say that if this describes you, you know who you are -- and you should take comfort in knowing you are definitely not alone.
By "balanced diet," Bost means not skipping meals, not overeating, and including plenty of nutritious plant foods (fruits and vegetables, whole grains, and beans) along with lean meats, fish, and low-fat dairy foods. It's about eating a diet that isn't too high in fat, protein, sugar, or processed foods. And here's some good news for you -- you're already doing this on the WebMD Weight Loss Clinic eating plan!
The Power of Touch
Other than eating a balanced diet, how can we de-stress and make the switch from indulging our overactive minds to enjoying our bodies after a hard day at the office or at home?
Besides an inspiring environment that includes romantic music and candlelight, Weston recommends trying the power of touch. It instantly sends the message that you are worthy of being touched and loved, and it helps many people relax within minutes.
Being the touch-er instead of (or in addition to) being the touch-ee can also help you de-stress, Weston adds. Whether you're on the giving or receiving end, you're still making a connection.
Three easy ways to use touch to increase desire is with:
1. Massage. Use a nice scented oil or a rich lotion (maybe one with shea butter) to help your hands glide over your partner's body. Don't worry if you aren't a trained massage professional. You have some options here:
- Teach your spouse how you want to be massaged by massaging him/her the same way.
- Rent a how-to massage video.
- If you really want to get serious, take a massage class along with your partner. Check at community centers, hospitals, spas, and sports clubs for classes in your area.